The Reasons People Never Reach Their Potential

Since everyone keeps telling me how much they love that Get The Guy is not JUST about love and men, but applicable to other parts of life too, I wanted to take the time today to help you take EVERYTHING in your life up a notch.

There’s something that has always amazed me about people.
Whether I’m working with a celebrity like Eva Longoria, a company like Virgin, or an institution like Oxford University, no matter what level of success a person or organisation has reached, there are there are 5 major roadblocks that hold them back from getting to the next level.
As I go through these with you, think about which of them you are currently experiencing (you’ll almost certainly find you’d like help in all five, even if one roadblock is bigger for you right now).
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1. Lack Of Vision

You know when people talk about being at a ‘crossroads’ in their life? A place where they can’t seem to make a decision about what it is they really want? It could be in their relationships, their career, where they want to live, or what their true passion in life is.
Well for most people being at a ‘crossroads’ isn’t a phase; it’s where they live. It’s the norm. They never figure out and decide what it is they really want.
Without a clear and exciting vision for where we’re going, we quickly begin to find a comfortable place to coast.

2. No Clear Strategy

Ok, let’s say for a moment you have a vision… It’s now vital to know exactly HOW to achieve it.
When most women say they want a relationship, they have no idea how to achieve that vision, so they end up listening to the advice of people who don’t know any better… And failing…
They stay where they are because nobody gives them a daily plan of what to do.
It’s one thing to say “I want to be the next Richard Branson” in business, but if we don’t have a set of routines and steps to follow that we KNOW will work, our vision will be nothing more than a fantasy.
Without a clear strategy, we end up being one of life’s ‘talkers’.

3. Inconsistent Drive

Everybody has had a moment, a day, or even a year in their lives where they felt motivated.
The problem isn’t finding motivation, it’s sustaining it.
For most people, motivation comes and goes and they feel like they have no real control over it.
Imagine getting in a car that stalled every couple of miles. It would wind up taking you ten times longer to reach your destination than it should.
One of the greatest keys to success is ‘reliable motivation’ – in other words, knowing that every morning you have a way of igniting your drive so that you can get through the things you have to do.

4. Lack Of Resources

Even if all three of the first obstacles are taken care of, people still have their excuses…
-I don’t have the time…
-I don’t have the money…
-I don’t have the right skill-sets or experience…
-I’m not smart enough, good looking enough, or charming enough…
-I don’t know the right people…
-I don’t live in the right place…
Here are the three things you MUST know when it comes to this roadblock:
1. How to acquire the resources that are essential.
2. The resources you don’t actually need that are often just used as excuses.
3. How to make the most of the resources you already have.

5. Low Core Confidence

It’s possible to overcome all of the first four barriers and still fail because your confidence isn’t where it needs to be.
Without core confidence, everything we have is just wasted potential.
Think of it this way: You’re standing in a coffee shop and you see someone you’re attracted to. You know you want him (your vision). You know a line you could use (your strategy). You have the desire to do it (your drive). You have time, and you know you have the ability to have a conversation because you’ve held conversations with people in the past (your resources).
Despite having all of these 4 things, you still can’t get yourself to move your feet to walk over. Why? Because you don’t feel you’re enough. You feel unworthy of the situation, the thought of the rejection paralyses you with fear, and you do nothing.
This is what makes this fifth barrier to success so scary. It’s the one thing that can hold you back even when everything else is working for you.
It’s the number one reason people don’t reach their potential – not because they don’t have the potential in the first place, but because THEY HOLD THEMSELVES BACK.